I used to have the memory of an elephant. I
remembered the names of people I met at parties and things I had to get done by
Tuesday at noon. These days, I go
through a fair size package of post-it notes to get through the month.
As we age, we often have more difficulty remembering
things the way we used to when we were younger.
And of course, the question that lurks in the backs of the mind is,
“Could this be Alzheimer’s?” You may
have an aging parent and be asking yourself, “Is this a normal part of getting
old or should I be concerned?” So here
are a few guidelines, hopefully to reassure you, or at least to indicate if it
is time to take steps.
Let’s say you forget
the name of the person you just met, or as you go to write down a phone number,
you can’t recall the last two digits.
This can just be normal forgetting or lack of attention, and on its own
is not cause for concern. The kind of
forgetting that is more of a problem is not being able to remember what you did
recently. For example, did your mother
forget that she just had lunch an hour ago?
This is not usually in the category of normal forgetting. Words also get forgotten. There are times when I get to the middle of a
sentence and the word I am looking for just will not come. It is
frustrating, it is embarrassing, but it is also normal. But it
is not normal if I think that the thing that I use to comb my hair is called a cup. Forgetting words is in the normal range,
using words incorrectly is not. Similarly,
if I misplace my glasses or my keys (even if I do it often), there is probably
no cause for my husband to be concerned.
But if I start keeping my glasses in the freezer because I think that
they belong there, please call my doctor.
If your Dad used to be a crossword whiz and he is not as fast as he used
to be, don’t panic. If he is slower at
balancing his checkbook that is probably not a problem but, if he forgets how
add or subtract or forgets what to do with the phone, it is time to get help.
Other changes that are
part of Alzheimer’s include a general sense of apathy or lack of initiative.
Not wanting to do things can also be part of normal grieving. So, if Dad died a
couple of months ago, Mom not being interested in things it is not cause for
alarm. But if there are no reasons that
you can think of for the apathy, or if Mom seems often confused in familiar
situations, or suddenly angry at nothing, assessment is probably a good idea.
Finally, we all show poor judgment at times, a bad investment or a bad choice
of hair color are unfortunate but not symptomatic. But
if you notice your friend using poor judgment about everyday tasks – going
outside in winter without a coat – take notice.
I hope that these
examples give greater peace of mind. But
if you think that there may be cause for concern, a memory assessment with a
neuropsychologist can give you a clearer idea if there is a problem.
This article was
written by Dr. Marilyn Fitzpatrick. Dr.
Fitzpatrick is a 65-year old Professor of Counselling Psychology at McGill
University and Partner in Medipsy Psychological Services in Westmount (www.medipsy.ca,
514 419-3005). Medipsy offers
assessments and services for seniors.
